"Overcoming
Your Barriers To
Weight Loss Success!"
2004 by
Dr. Frank B. Smoot, MA, DD
www.CoachFrankSmoot.com
If there's one thing ALL of us need to understand, it is this:
The only reason we aren't already
where we
want to be in life is that we can't see the barriers
that are keeping us from getting there.
We humans are smart critters. If we can clearly see what needs to be
done, we can do it. And we are remarkably good at getting rid of the
barriers we can actually see. Unfortunately, it's the barriers we
can't see that are--right now--keeping us from getting where we want
to go.
Two more crucial things to understand: All of our barriers are
learned, and none are "valid." They are only as real as we,
ourselves make them.
But unfortunately, we have learned to make them real, and so we
unwittingly give them the power to stop us in out tracks by our own
inability to spot them and challenge them. And as long as these
barriers remain unseen and unidentified, they will hold us back
forever--creating in a life filled with frustration and unfulfilled
dreams instead of the successes we truly deserve.
If These
Barriers Were Not Blocking
Our Progress, We Could Fly Like Eagles
To The Destination Of Our Dreams!
So the obvious solution is to learn how identify and then
remove/replace the barriers that are currently blocking us. The
problem is that we are "inherently incapable" of seeing our own
barriers—just as we can't see the back of our own head. If we can't
see them, there's no way we can replace them with something better.
We remain blind to our own barriers for several reasons. On some
level, we know that these barriers exist. We also know (on some
level) that they are of our own making...that we are not "victims of
life. "
But since we can't see our barriers for what they really
are—illusions, groundless fears, and outright lies—we believe that
they're real. So, for us, they become real. Worse yet, since they've
been part of our lives for as long as we can remember, we
unconsciously fear that they always will be with us—that we're
"stuck" with them forever.
And something inside us simply can't
deal with the thought of that.
So Off We Go –
Into "Denial Land"
– Where Most Of Us Will Stay
We've been blind to our own barriers for so long that we are not
only unable but now unwilling to see them. The people closest to us
(who may be able to see our barriers) have learned not to talk about
them to us. And even if some objective third party (like a therapist
or counselor) should bring them to our attention, our knee-jerk
reflex is to run, scream, hide, or make a beeline back into denial.
In short, we most often "can't hear it" because...we really don't
want to. What I have found, after decades of experience, is that the
most effective way for many of us to identify our personal barriers
is through the use of written self-assessments (i.e., as part of a
course, class, or therapeutic coaching or counseling process.
Why is writing such a good "gateway to the unconscious?" Because it
is the least threatening way to approach self-exploration. The
entire process is under our own total control. And for that reason,
we do a much better job of telling the truth--at least as we see it.
I use this technique very effectively with my coaching clients, as
part of the homework I give them after every one of our phone
sessions. I find this approach to actually be more powerful than the
"live" counseling sessions I used to do as a licensed
psychotherapist.
In fact, I have yet to see any other
process that works as well for self-discovery—especially when the
writing assignments are being done with a skilled coach or
counselor.
What You Can
See, You Can Fix!
Only when we have identified the barriers to our success can we then
take the relatively easy step of removing them, or even converting
them into something that will help us instead of hold us back.
And once we've done this, we start to
discover that we possess a level of freedom, energy, clarity, and
passion for life that we once had scarcely had dared imagine
possible.
And once we really understand that the quality of our own live—of
our own future—depends on identifying our barriers, then we see
these self-exploration activities and exercises in a whole new
light. Now, instead of mere "assignments," they become tools.
Friends. Vehicles to transport us where we most want to go.
The key to it all is to really, really understand that we're going
to stay stuck right where we are unless and until we do the work of
identifying and removing our own personal barriers.
Otherwise our dreams will never be anything but...dreams.
Yours in total health,
Dr. Frank
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Dear Friend - If you'd like to slash months, years,
or decades off the time it takes to
reach your personal goals,
or just get the truth for a change,
please visit my success coaching
web site at
www.CoachFrankSmoot.com or send me an email at
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540-567-2050.
And don't forget to inquire about your FREE 30-minute "sample"
coaching session. Is it your turn for
success yet? If so, I'm ready
when you are! Yours in total
health, Dr. Frank B. Smoot, MA, DD
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Dr. Frank B. Smoot, MA, DD, is a professional weight loss
success coach and the creator of the "Get
Motivated For Life! /
7 Weeks To Lifelong Weight Loss"
and "Weight Loss God's Way"
success program (www.WeightLossGodsWay.com)